I Have No Regrets

Wednesday, October 24, 2012


In my early - mid 20s, I felt so lost. I did not know who I was, what I wanted, or where my life was going. I am sure that many of you can relate or have related to what I went through, especially when we see so many women with their dream jobs and businesses of their own. We are left scratching our heads (or sitting in the closet crying with a gallon of ice cream) wondering how we're supposed to figure it all out. I kept telling myself that one day I'd use what I went through to help others. I did not know when or how, but that was my plan. Just a few years later, we've done it with a little something called The Everygirl.

My life has changed so much the past few years–so much that in the best way possible, I barely recognize it anymore. I moved from LA to Chicago. I went from running one business to two. I have a business partner. We have interns. My last apartment was featured in Rue Magazine and I am trying to finish my new apartment for not one but two home tours. I struggled with working out and feeling good about myself throughout my 20s, but found CrossFit five months ago and haven't been the same since. I've never felt better. I went from being a vegetarian to following a paleo diet and am a week and a half into the 60 day paleo challenge. My mom sold her house which was in our family since the day I was born and finally, great aunt Rose has been slowly losing her mind. It's a lot to process.

And there's more. My 20s came to an end last month, and my the relationship I was in throughout my 20s came to an end. We haven't lived in the same city for two years and haven't seen each other in almost a year, so I suppose it was over before we made it official. I found myself single for the first time in my adult life, and while it was a very big change (and not always easy), I feel like I have adjusted and that I'm doing very well.

I am s-l-o-w-l-y learning to find some balance in my life. I worked nights and weekends the first half of the year, but have been taking weekends off since summer, and it's been lovely. The thing is–there is always something to do, which can be a little overwhelming. There's the social media–Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter for both myself and The Everygirl. The newsletter. The submissions inbox. My inbox. Our (wonderful) interns. The editorial calendar. Conference calls. Photo shoots. Photo editing. Blog design. Logos. Other graphic design projects. Collaborations. Events. CrossFit. The list goes on.

I fell into this world and while my life is a little crazy right now, I have no regrets. Financially–it's scary. I work for myself and always have a fear that the money will just stop coming in. I worry about the future. Ok–I worry about everything. I'm working on this one! But I feel like we're doing something great. Something worthwhile. Every single time someone emails or stops me to tell me how much they love TEG, my heart skips a beat. And there are so many good things happening for The Everygirl. Just four months in, we made it to Forbes. And within the past eight months since we launched, we've partnered with Random House, Kate Spade, Gap, Home Depot, Banana Republic, Rue, and Career Builder. And we were featured in the Nov issue of Chicago Home and Garden. It feels pretty damn amazing.

It has been a crazy few years, but I am excited/nervous to see how it all unfolds. To watch The Everygirl grow. To continue to grow as a person. To meet the man of my dreams. I'm so lucky to be healthy, to have these businesses, wonderful friends, this blog, a supportive family, and to have found a form of exercise that has completely changed my life (you had to know I'd mention CrossFit, again). While everything often feels as if its up in the air, it also feels like it's all slowly coming together. I guess that's part of the journey. I know I'll figure it out and I truly believe that anything you're this passionate about is worth fighting for. And all of this? So worth it. 

If you find yourself where I was years ago, or feeling a little lost at times (still facing that now), or just completely overwhelmed/don't know where your life is going, know that you are not alone. We're all trying to figure it out. Just continue to stay true to yourself, follow your heart, and live a life without regrets.


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20 comments

  1. i love this post. so excited to see what you do next!

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  2. I'm having one of those days where all I want to do is cry. And then cry some more lol. Because I feel so lost. What am I doing with my life. And where am I headed. What's more purpose. And why am I here. Etc. I'm bombarded by these questions every single day. Then I read your post (call it fate) and I feel a little more hopeful....that somehow, someway, someday...things will all fall into place. And I thought I was alone;). Thanks for this post Danielle! I really wish you the best! You inspire me:)! Good luck on your new business idea and sorry for sharing so much!

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  3. So proud of you. You are truly inspiring and I'm so glad you've found your 'direction' and happiness.

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  4. I am glad that you are in such a happy place. It is nice when everything starts to feel like it is falling into place. You have so many successes to celebrate! Keep shining!


    xx Katie
    Daily Crush

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  5. I love this post so much. I feel like so many girls can relate to this and it's reassuring to know others go through it.

    @CoastWithMe - you're definitely not alone :)

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  6. this is an amazing post. i love your blog and TEG. keep up the good work -- you are very inspirational :) xx

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  7. go girl! i love this post and i love you. change is scary but it's great that you are taking control of so many aspects of your life, and creating a career and life that most girls can only dream of!

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  8. I think it's so gutsy you had the nerve to move somewhere on your own - I haven't done that since college (not that college really counts)and don't know if I have the nerve to do it again. I love reading posts like this because it makes me feel like I'm going to figure things out and be ok. P.s. I love the Everygirl! Kudos to you for figuring out what you love and going for it.

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  9. Always a sweet reminder that I'm not alone with these thoughts and fears. Thanks for always being so honest. You're already doing great things and now you're one to aspire to!

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  10. Beautiful post. I've experienced a crazy journey this past year as my relationship of 11 years ended. But along this sometimes dark and scary road, I've experienced some amazing things. I'm eager to see how it all unfolds. Keep up with your posts...I love reading this blog!

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  11. This post is so perfect for my own experiences! I'm turning 30 this winter and my 20's has been a mess of change and no direction. The only constant has been my relationship, which I'm thankful for having something secure! Change is good & its an exciting time, but it doesn't always feel like it when you're going through it!

    Love how much you have accomplished & I know I am definitely looking forward to more exciting but stable things in my 30's!

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  12. I love this post so much. I don't think I could relate to it more if I tried. At 22 I am in the middle of trying to figure it all out. But I'm starting to think that what I really need to do is stop trying to figure it all out and trust that everything will fall into place...and keep reading TEG for inspiration. :) Thanks for the wonderful post, Danielle!

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  13. It's always so refreshing and appreciated when bloggers write posts like this. So often lifestyle bloggers just seem to being living in this prefect world full of shopping trips and photoshoots that it makes us "normal" people wonder, "how DO they do it?" We forget that everyone one goes through struggles; financially, personally, professionally, emotionally, etc. Thank you a million times over for keeping it REAL and still being a HUGE inspiration to gals like me, still trying to figure it all out.

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  14. I can't tell you how refreshing this is to read. Everything you have accomplished with your blog and The Everygirl is something I really admire. I'm finding myself in the exact same spot where I'm working hard to follow my future goals and a little nervous/unsure of how it will come to be. Hearing about successful people going through the same steps is so inspiring. It really shows that having a drive and excitement behind your work takes you pretty far. I've followed the Everygirl from the start, find so much inspiration in it, share it with others, and can't wait to see where it goes in the future.

    Stay in the Lines

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  15. Thank you so much for sharing your life with us! I am a huge fan of Breakfast at Toast and The Everygirl. So happy you are getting to pursue your dreams. Also, I too know the power of a great workout routine- makes you feel so strong and powerful in your own body!

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  16. I just stumbled upon your blog and the Everygirl; I love them both! I can't wait to follow them! This is a great post and so timely for my life right now. I'm turning 31 next week and still trying to figure things out and what direction my life is headed. Fortunately, I have a supportive husband and wonderful son to keep me grounded and help me along the way. It is hard being self-employed, but it can also be very rewarding.

    By the way, I am an avid CrossFitter, too! I can't go back to any other form of exercise!

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  17. love this! and you! seriously may have teared up a bit over this. I can't wait to write a post like this of my own soon. :) SEE YOU IN TWO WEEKS!

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  18. i needed this today. like seriously.

    it is so easy to forget that we aren't alone in this mess of growing up.

    i constantly remind myself that i need to find peace within myself first before i look for outside things to enhance my life. easier said than done. but i am in the best place yet. took a couple, er 26 years.

    thanks!!

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  19. You've accomplished a lot, girl! You're awesome!

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  20. So grateful for this post. Thank you for sharing, and especially for your encouragement. I lurk a lot (here and on TEG), but I have to share with you how much my life has been enriched from reading both. Thank you, thank you, for all of the work that you do. xx, Sarah

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